Friday, February 14, 2014

Why I'm not back, but I'm back (an update)

This is not a comeback, or a triumphant return, but just a quick note to let you know that I am well, and happy, and am excited to be spending this Valentine's Day evening with the man I've been busy falling in love with for the last four months. There were times over my six years of blogging when I did occasionally wonder if this blog itself in some way could be holding me back from meeting the right person. All those bad dates, after all, were such good story fodder. And so it is perhaps ironic, or fitting, or even downright weird, depending on how you look at it, that less than 72 hours after my last post shutting this thing down altogether, I met E.

I can hear you all clamoring for details (yes, all the way from here), so I will say that he is quite tall, twelve years older than me, an officer in the Coast Guard, and perfectly helpless in the kitchen (though a very willing sous chef, and learning fast). And best of all, since the moment I met him, I have never once wondered where I stand, if he was interested, if he would call. We talk on the phone or text every day, and have from the first day we met. He asked me on a second date in the middle of our first date. (Right before we made out in the bar like a couple of kids. It was a good first date, is what I'm saying.) On our second date we went hiking, and on our third date we got all dressed up in our best formal attire and went to the Coast Guard Ball. He brought me a corsage in a plastic clamshell container like we were going to Prom. One woman at our table couldn't believe we were on our third date when she found out. "I thought you were married!" She exclaimed. "You seem like you've been together forever! Sandy, come here and listen to this," she beckoned to her friend. "These guys met online, and they're on their third date!" And the two ladies beamed at us like a friendly zoo exhibit, and just stopped short of pinching our cheeks. "So sweet," they sighed. And I couldn't help but agree.

And so, tonight we don't have any big plans to celebrate our first Valentine's Day as a couple, but we will be spending it together, just him and me and his two joint custody, part-time pugs, who he loves more than football, and that's saying a lot. (If you've never seen a 6'4" grown man holding a pug like a baby while covering its round, wrinkly head with smooches, well, it's a sight.)

To sum up, I am well, I am happy, I am loved, and I am in love. I am grateful in the general and the specific; grateful for this space and what it's provided me over the years, grateful that I can come back and share a part of my life with you (if any of you are still out there after all this time). I wish you all the happiest of days today, whatever your circumstances; a day full of friendship, and love, and a sense of contentment that runs bone-deep and then turns around three times and settles down comfortably with a long, grateful sigh that says, I'm home.

18 comments:

  1. Lovely post! Sounds like you have found something good. :-)

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  2. I've been a lurker for years and have been cheering you on from the sidelines knowing that one day you would find the right one. I feel like a proud mama over here! I hope we see your wedding pictures on this blog one day!!

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  3. So happy for you! You deserved your happy ending. <3

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  4. I'm also de-lurking to say I have enjoyed your blog (I think I originally found you through French expat blogs). Glad to learn your happy news.

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  5. Grinning from ear-to-ear for you! Thanks for checking in with the news--so happy to read it. You deserve the best!

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  6. That made me so happy to read :) Thanks for the update, and best of luck with everything! Don't be a blogger stranger!

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  7. I love this so much! Thank you so much for checking in.

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  8. happy to hear such a wonerful and well-deserved post script

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  9. Oh I'm so happy for you! Also guilty of lurking since way back in 2007 but I secretly and fervently wished you'd get what you were looking for and I'm glad you found it. Couldn't have engineered a better fantasy ending to compete with your real life storybook end. Hope you keep each other happy. :)

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  10. so very happy for you rachel!! what a truly lovely postscript :) ~stephanie, aka grumpy's sister :)

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  11. So happy for you!

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  12. Wonderful read -- so happy for you!

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  13. Yay! Hooray. I know exactly what you mean. When it's right, it isn't hard, and there is no doubt. So glad you found him.

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  14. Be happy forever! But watch out for all that kissing. I lat a girl kiss me once and discovered, uh, life can get complicated about 40 weeks later. Kissing is just Nature's trick to keep the species going, is all I'm saying.

    Truly hope for the best for you! :)

    M

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  15. Thrilled....Absolutely thrilled for you! I'm so glad I check your blog every now and them for an update!

    All the best for you! <3

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  16. Awesome story! If you feel and act that way after three dates, and people around you assume you have been together forever. then it must be a great fit! So happy for you both!

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