I wrote before about looking for the "poof": that letting go of the thing that has irked you or the person who has wronged you, and how simple it sounds in theory, and how hard it is in practice. Well I am here to say, Internet, I think I have found my poof!
Or, at least my work poof, which is really where 90% of my daily annoyances come from, anyway. My company shares an office with another company. We see each other in passing and in the common areas, but other than that, we have very little to do with each other. Recently I've started going on lunchtime walks with a woman who works for the other company. The first time we went, we spent the hour talking about our jobs, our bosses, and our coworkers, as you do. After we had walked and talked for an hour she said, "I'm sorry, I hope you don't mind me venting about all this." Mind?
"Um, no..." I said. "Actually, it's perfect."
While it would be a terrible idea to vent about one coworker to another coworker, or about your boss to anyone else in the company, the fact that we work for different companies, with different coworkers and different bosses, means our secrets are safe with each other. Plus, while we're talking we're also exercising and burning off steam. It's literally the perfect situation for a poof. I get back to the office feeling lighter, breezier, and if not exactly ready to tackle the rest of the afternoon, at least not dreading it quite so much. While it's not something I had planned on, I am so, so happy to have found my partner in poof.